Hello all,
It is my first post 
I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you “owe” it to them to support them now?
(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)
Thanks.
interesting post to put here?
what is the relevance to rei? just curious.
well even though it has no relevance to rei i do think it is your responsibility to reciprocate the support your parents gave you. Thats just the right thing to do. =)
well that depends. i mean, if your parents supported your basic needs, but neglected you and mistreated you in other ways - well then I’d say that some sons or daughters may have a hard time with this scenario. i wouldn’t as my parents were/are incredible people. but i know other people who don’t share these same feelings.
i would say this, do on to others as you would have them do on to you. YOU will be the better person for it. just don’t let anyone abuse your kindness or mistake it for weakness…ever.
and that statement “do on to others…” works for every situation. if you were an alcoholic - being an active alcoholic - you would want everyone to leave you alone…but deep down, you might be crying for help! so, do on to others the things that will HELP THEM… i.e. “tough love” sometimes is the best option!
I agree. I think that you should take care of your parents as they age. My sister and I are already planning for the day that our mother “retires” and her care falls on us.
Parents owe the kids support. Kids owe the parents love. Once you have kids then your priorities change and there is only one job that you have. That job is to raise that kid to be a productive adult. Having a child is like shooting a gun. You are responsible for that bullet until it comes to rest. It does not reverse. That bullet has no responsibility for how you are on the other end of that gun. You are responsible to love your parents. That love will lead you to take care of your parents if they need it, but you do not owe them care.
The way the world was designed was that the parents take care of the child and give him all the tools he needs to be successful including a second chance if he has to come home and reboot. That kid does well because of that support and does better than his parents. That kid then has kids and it repeats. That is a family progressing upward. If the kid has to come back to help his parents it pulls him down and he may not end up where he should. The parents have a duty to not be a burden on their kids.
I suggest you go to a social services site and post and not on a REI site. Is anyone on this site actually investing besides me or is this site just for socializing?
Just curious?!?!?!?!
I second that. Why are we entertaining this?