That’s a fantastic question…!
There are so many approaches to this issue that it seems to depend on the personality of the negotiator.
As far as I’m concerned confidence in yourself trumps about everything.
Becoming confident involves several things not the least of which is knowing your market, knowing your price limits, and knowing where you’re headed in the negotiations.
Shooting from the hip is the pits.
I used to filter the prospects for motivation over the phone, thinking this was a way to limit my valuable time to motivated sellers.
Well, motivated sellers will lie over the phone about their motivation. So will unmotivated sellers.
So, I pay no attention until I’ve got the sellers in front of me.
Now, this doesn’t mean I don’t sift the sellers that call me. I check their property data before I show up at the door. If their property doesn’t meet my requirements I cancel the appointment.
Which brings me to mention that I want sellers to call me. It puts me in a position of strength. When I show up to meet the seller, I’m considered a guest, not an intruder.
Getting sellers to call us is a whole nother post.
Meantime, it’s a mistake to try to “convince” someone to accept our offers.
If we’re just paying cash, and not attempting anything creative with the financing, our negotiations are fairly straightforward.
After I’ve talked with the seller for 30 minutes, or so, I know what is motivating him, if anything besides checking the market temperature, and then I show him what he’d get in a conventional transaction.
Most sellers have never been through an analysis of what it costs to sell through an agent. It’s often more than 10% of their asking price, not the six, or five, or whatever percent the agent charges for his fee.
Then it’s basically “start lower than where you want to ‘end up,’ and then end up exactly halfway between where you started and where the seller started, or ‘Here’s my price. Works for you, or not? What will work?’”
I think that Pawn Stars really illustrates the cash negotiations really well.
When it comes to making creative financing offers, this is a horrible approach.