When I read your post, it is hard to distinguish whether you are the investor, the seller or a real estate agent?
As an investor preparing a hardship package for the lenders, the package should be prepared in duplicate, one going to the 1st and one going to the second.
Your the investor, your in charge, you have to offer something to the second just to get them to play ball! If the second will not agree to a deal, the first is not even going to work the numbers or get serious about agreeing to a short sale, it is as plain and simple as that.
Generally speaking the first mortgage company will be happy to except a deal where the second is offered roughly 5% of the outstanding balance of there loan and the balance of the offer goes to the first lender.
You don’t want to give away the barn, but you want to offer enough that the second feels a little respect! If most seconds are offered nothing, they feel insulted and figure “screw it” we just won’t approve and force the property to the trustee sale because it hurts the borrowers credit, and allows the second lender to seek a defeciency judgement.
Do not upset the second trust deed lender!
Trying to put the first and second in touch with each other is like throwing two needles in a hay stack and hoping both will find each other, it is just impracticle and very difficult to get two parties who are each authorized to except an offer on behalf of the lender they represent.
Most short sale approvals are done in committee.
You will find your first lender will not get serious unless you are able to get consensus from your second lender because the first can work till there blue in the face and when it comes to the day of the “Trustee Sale” if the second did not make an approval, the house goes to auction anyway!
When I do a short sale I start working both lenders at day one, but I concentrate my efforts on recieving approvals in writing from the second, and generally if I am talking to the right rep’s on the phone, I can get a general consensus early on to know if the numbers work.